- If you praise her, She thinks you are lying. If you don’t, You are good for nothing.

- If you agree to all her likes, You are a wimp. If you don’t, You are not understanding.

- If you visit her often, She thinks you are boring. If you don’t, She accuses you of double-crossing.

- If you are well dressed, She says you are a playboy. If you don’t, You are a dull boy.

- If you are jealous, She says it’s bad. If you don’t, She thinks you do not love her.

- If you attempt a romance, She says you didn’t respect her. If you don’t, She thinks you do not like her.

- If you are a minute late, She complains it’s hard to wait. If she is late, She says that’s a girl’s way.

- If you visit another man, You’re not putting in “quality time”. If she is visited by another woman, “oh it’s natural, we are girls”

- If you kiss her once in a while, She professes you are cold. If you kiss her often, She yells that you are taking advantage.

- If you fail to help her in crossing the street, You lack ethics. If you do, She thinks it’s just one of men’s tactics for seduction.

- If you stare at another woman, She accuses you of flirting. If she is stared by other men, She says that they are just admiring.

- If you talk, She wants you to listen. If you listen, She wants you to talk.

In short:

So simple, yet so complex
So weak, yet so powerful
So confusing, yet so desirable
So damning, yet so wonderful… …..WOMEN!

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3. Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.

4.  Never leave home without a prop. Props are natural conversation starters. They encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start talking to you. Great props include: dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, a distinctive bag from your favorite store or an interesting book or newspaper.

5. Change your behavior from the role of guest to host. You are not the passive person in waiting, but rather the welcome committee.

6. Make the first move. Move closer to the person you want to meet. Say hello!

7. You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak. Listening is a true art. Your flirting partner will be drawn to you. Everyone loves to be heard.

8. Make eye contact, but please look your partner in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then glance away. Don’t stare – it’s a turn off.

9. Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The “flirtee” will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment the best response is merely to say Thank You!

10. It is contagious. It will make you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. You will be a people magnet. Try it!

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1. Write an encouraging note to others that have encouraged you or that need encouragement. Handwritten notes that are given to encourage, not just for thanking someone for a gift, are rare. That makes handwritten notes even more special. Start a new practice of sitting down and writing an encouraging note on a regular basis. You just might start an epidemic!
2. Take a friend out to lunch or invite her to your home for a meal. You will get to know each other even better than you do right now. If you feel like being more adventurous, throw a party for several of your friends and put smiles on a multitude of faces.
3. Give someone an inspirational book to read. You will feel good doing it, reading the book will change the person, and they will think of you every time they read it.
4. Ask a friend or relative if you can take care of their kid(s) for a day or evening. If you have been a parent, you know the value of being able to have a few hours of `adult time` without worrying about the children. Don’t wait to be asked to baby-sit when it is required. Offer to do it at a time when the parent can do something fun and relaxing.
5. Deliver a meal to someone you know that is sick or having a rough time. We have all been sick and know the last thing you want to do is be out of bed. There are also times when life is tough and it is hard to do all of the daily chores. You can be a tremendous help by providing a meal that can be enjoyed.
6. Volunteer time to supporting your local prayer hall or temple. Every minute you dedicate to charity or temple will cause many smiles. You will put a smile on the face of each leader just for helping without being asked. You will also be putting smiles on the faces of those that are being helped through the organization.
7. Thank everyone that supports you throughout the day. The list of those that you come in contact with is endless. Remember family and friends, secretaries, co-workers, teachers, Sunday school teachers, pastors, store employees, janitors, gas station attendants, those that deliver your mail and newspaper, and servers at restaurants.

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Everyone else in the room stops to listen.

MAN: ‘Hello

WOMAN: ‘Darling, it’s me. Are you at the club?

MAN: ‘Yes

WOMAN: ‘I am at the shopping center and found this beautiful leather coat. It’s only $1,000. Is it OK if I buy it?

MAN: ‘Sure go ahead if you like it that much.

WOMAN: ‘I also stopped by the Mercedes dealership and saw the new 2008 models. I saw one I really liked.

MAN: ‘How much?

WOMAN: ‘$70,000?

MAN: ‘OK, but for that price I want it with all the options.

WOMAN: ‘Great! Oh, and one more thing ¦ The house I wanted last year is back on the market. They’re asking $950,000?

MAN: ‘Well, then go ahead and give them an offer of $900,000. They will probably take it. If not, we can go the extra $50 thousand. It really is a pretty good price.

WOMAN: ‘OK. I’ll see you later! I love  you so much!!

MAN: ‘Bye! I love you, too.

The man hangs up. The other men in the changing room are staring at him in astonishment, mouths wide open…

He smiles and asks,

“Anyone knows who this phone belongs to?”

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American grand mother Linda Wolfe has become The most married woman in the world after walking down the aisle 23 times. She is “on the lookout for number 24″. Her name is included in the Guinness Book of World Records for the dubious honor of being wed more times than anyone else alive.

She has said that she is “addicted to the romance” of getting married. Born Linda Lou Taylor, the American first married in 1957 to George Scott at the age of 16. The union lasted for seven years, the longest and happiest of any of her marriages. Since then things have tended to go downhill. Over the subsequent decades she married a one eyed convict, a preacher, barmen, plumbers and musicians.

Two turned out to be homosexual, two were homeless and one beat her. Another put a padlock on her fridge. One marriage lasted just 36 hours because “the love wasn’t there”. But Linda, from Indiana, once married the same man, Jack Gourley, three times.

She has had seven children by her different husbands and been a stepmother to many more. Her last marriage, a decade ago, was a publicity stunt. It was to Glynn Wolfe, who in taking Linda as his bride meant he was the world’s most married man, at 29 times. He died a year later aged 88.

She said that she was “on the lookout for number 24″. She told The Sun: “It’s been years since I walked down the aisle. I miss it.” The serial bride, who now lives in a retirement home, said she had never cheated on a husband. She said if she had her life over again she would “never, ever” marry so many men.

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• Reading to your children is the best way to inculcate a reading habit in them, which leads to a love of learning as they grow older. Reading also creates an emotional bond between parent and the child, whether it’s lap time reading, bed time reading or any other way of doing it that you both enjoy. Moreover, it develops their skills like creativity, vocabulary, imagination and communication.
• Allow your kids to settle issues on their own. As long as there is no bullying or physical violence, do not get involved in their fights. When you try to resolve their disputes, you will be required to take sides and this will not go down well with one of them. It is better to allow children to handle their own problems as far as possible. If they are not able to do it, or you feel like the situation is getting to you, ask them to play separately till they are able to be civil to each other and find a solution. You will be doing them a favor by teaching them the values of cooperation, problem solving and compromise in the process.
• Mothers are so busy with their day-to-day routines that they forget to have fun with their children. Take out one on one time to enjoy with your child. Do something that both of you like — indulge in outdoor games, art and craft, board games, go for a walk, chat, cook – do anything at all that makes you feel good. Laugh together, tickle each other, dance, sing songs, just have fun.
• All parents want to keep their kids safe. Remember to take the necessary precautions, whether it is making them sit in the backseat of the car while driving, or making sure that there is someone responsible with them at all times. Make sure your home is childproof, with electrical outlets out of reach, furniture edges rounded off, glass items out of the way etc.
• Make sure to impart good values to your kids — it’s the best gift you’ll ever give them. Values are the foundation of a child’s character. Teach your children values through everyday interactions, stories and by the way you conduct yourself. While story-telling, however, make sure you don’t connect the story to the child. If, for example, you want to teach your little one about honesty, tell him/ her interesting stories related to it. Do not say, “You should behave in the same manner as so-and-so did and always tell the truth” — the message will not sink in. To a youngster, this feels like nagging and moralizing, which will go in one ear and out the other.
• Respect and listen to their views and values, their opinions. Give them your complete attention when they want to talk to you. Put whatever activity you are engaged in on hold, and if that’s not possible, set a time for when you can chat, and make sure to stick to it. Encourage your children every opportunity you get. Make them feel special and express your love for them often. Hug them, kiss them and say ‘I love you’ everyday, not just when they are young but also as they grow older. Let them feel your love and affection as often as you can.
• Remember that your kids are watching you all the time and want to ape you in every possible way. Even very young children take in and listen to everything their parents say and do, so remain aware of your actions and behavior around them. For example, if you talk rudely to the domestic help, you will not be very successful in teaching your children the value of politeness. Model the behavior that you want them to develop. Keep your kids healthy, but allow them their personal likes and dislikes when it comes to food: Provide nutritious meals for your children, but allow them to make their own choices about what they like or don’t like. As long as you are providing them with nutritious options and not junk food, they will almost always make the right choices. With young children, try and be creative with their meals, so that it’s fun for them. If, for instance, there is cooked vegetable and chapattis for dinner, fold some cooked veggies into each chapatti so that the kids can enjoy it as a roll.
• A good mother is firm and flexible. Don’t leave discipline only to a child’s father. Set reasonable rules and limits and discuss them with your kids beforehand. Follow through with the consequences whenever applicable. However, there are times when you have to be flexible and ease the rules; times when youngsters are tired, sleepy, hungry or not well.
• Treat all your children in the same manner. However, don’t try to be overly fair, as it will get in the way — for example, if you are out shopping and spot a book that one of your kids needs for a reference project, you do not necessarily have to buy something for the other child. Similarly, bring the other child what he/ she requires when it’s needed. As long as you are providing for both of them equally, they will understand and not make an issue. When you try to be overly fair, children tend to find faults with every little thing you do.
• Conversing with children is the best way to influence their ability and love for learning. Children who are spoken to often as infants will understand more words when they are toddlers and preschoolers than others.  Communication also strengthens the mother-child bond and eases out the communication barriers, even as kids grow older.
• One of the best things a mother can do is Honor her children’s father in front of them. Even if you are separated or divorced, never speak ill about your spouse in front of your children. Talk about him with respect and teach your children to respect him too.
• Get your children to bond with extended family — uncles, aunts, cousins. Make an effort so that they interact with both the maternal and paternal sides. Even if you don’t get along with your in-laws, teach your children to respect their grandparents. They will hold you in higher esteem for doing that.
• Always expect to be treated with respect by others in the presence of your kids and by your kids themselves. Do not allow anyone to cross a line. Maintain your dignity under all circumstances; be honest and keep your integrity intact always.
• Sleep well and take out time for yourself. Keep yourself in good health. Remember, a happy, relaxed mother can give more of herself to her children and family than an overworked, tense parent.

Source: http://www.rediff.com/getahead/2007/jul/11mom.htm

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1. When you break her heart, the pain never really goes away.
2. When she misses you, she’s hurting inside.
3. When she says it’s over, she still wants you to be hers.
4. When she walks away from you mad, follow her.
5. When she stares at your mouth, kiss her.
6. When she pushes or hits you, grab her tight & don’t let her go.
7. When she starts cursing at you, kiss her and tell her you love her.
8. When she ignores you, give her your attention.
9. When she pulls away, pull her back.
10. When you see her at her worst, tell her she’s beautiful.
11. When you see her crying, just hold her and don’t say a word.
12. When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
13. When she’s scared, protect her.
14. When she lays her head on your shoulder, tilt her head up and kiss her.
15. When she steals your favorite jacket, let her keep it and sleep with it for a night.
16. When she teases you, tease her back and make her laugh.
17. When she doesn’t answer for a long time, reassure her that everything is okay.
18. When she looks at you with doubt, back yourself up with the truth.
19. When she says that she likes you, she really does more than you could understand.
20. When she grabs your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.
21. When she bumps into you, bump into her back and make her laugh.
22. When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
23. When she looks at you in your eyes, don’t look away until she does.
24. Stay on the phone with her even if she’s not saying anything.
25. Don’t let her have the last word.
26. Don’t call her hot, but gorgeous or beautiful is so much better.
27. Say you love her more than she could ever love you.
28. Argue that she is the best girl ever.
29. When she’s mad, hug her tight and don’t let go.
30. When she says she’s OK, don’t believe it, talk to her about it, because 10 yrs later she’ll still remember it.
31. Call her at 12:00am on special occasions to tell her you love her.
32. Call her before you sleep and after you wake up.
33. Treat her like she’s all that matters to you.
34. Don’t ignore her when she’s out with you and your friends.
35. Stay up all night with her when she’s sick.
36. Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think its stupid.
37. Let her into your world.
38. Let her wear your clothes.
39. When she’s bored and sad, hang out with her.
40. Let her know she’s important.
41. Kiss her in the pouring rain.
42. When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is; “Who’s hole am I kicking today baby?”.
43. After she reads this, she hopes one day you’d read it too.

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1. Medications: Certain medicines may have many side effects on the body. Some of the drugs often have a direct impact on the man’s libido levels. The drugs may have an affect in the brain due to chemical reactions and cause loss of interest in sex. It is important to note that medications that ought to deal with depression and diabetes often lead to loss of sexual desire. A way out of the situation is to consult a good doctor to know if an alternate medication is possible, that may not cause as much harm to libido level.

2. Lack of Sleep: Lack of sleep not only affects thinking capacity and performance levels, it also causes a backlash in sex life. When the daily sleep requirements aren’t met, the body experiences extreme fatigue that results in

good night’s sleep seems far more tempting as compared to having sex.

3. Hormonal Levels: If your partner shows no interest in sex, chances are it’s due to low levels of testosterone hormone. Low testosterone level is not very common among men. However, it can be a potent reason why your man might be losing interest in sex. Secondly, age is also an important factor when we speak of low testosterone levels. E.g. a middle aged man might be facing low testosterone levels owing to male menopause.

4. Identity Issues: Sometimes, due to professional and personal life, men often feel uncertain about their role in society due to identity issues. It can be issues such as dealing with a difficult boss or death of an important family member. Going through a phase of divorce also hampers men’s belief in relationships and thereby affects the desire in bed.

5. Stress: Stress has become integral part of our today’s lifestyle. There can be many sources of stress – but, a common impact of this is loss of desire. It is important for men going through such high stress levels to identify the various sources contributing to it and try to arrest them.

6. Spats with Mate: In a relationship, the man and woman may have different notions of pleasure and the degree to which it is okay to experiment. Very often, the man may want to do something that the woman is not quite comfortable with or even vice versa. Alternatively, the partners may have varied notions when it comes to things like frequency and intimacy in their relationship. These kind of disagreements lead to poor relationships and depression that has a direct impact on the man’s libido levels. While some may purposely abstain from sex to push their point of view, others may genuinely lose interest.

7. Sexual Difficulties: The man may be facing issues like Erectile Dysfunction or may also be suffering from premature ejaculation that leads to partner dissatisfaction. A few instances of poor performance affects their self esteem and it causes added pressure the next time they get into the act. With such performance expectations, there can loss of desire for sex. The reasons may be purely organic or psychological. But, it is very important to tackle it accordingly.

For example, indulging in stop and start exercise can benefit those suffering from early ejaculation and avoiding alcohol may help in dealing with erectile dysfunction.

8. Body Image: With issues like penis size being hyped to a great extent, it is bound to create self esteem issues among men who feel they are not well endowed even if that’s not the case. Many times, the partner’s body may be an issue. And if self image does not meet up to your own expectations, it could also lead to loss of desire.

9. It’s not about Sex: Many a times, other sexual habits of men can affect their desire for intercourse. Not because they have any ill effects on sex life, but because over addiction to pornography, leading to sexual activities could reduce preference for regular intercourse. When stimulation modes differ in a way that’s not possible during normal intercourse, it leads to reduced desire for sex with partner.

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So, if breakups don’t have to occur, what cases them and how can you prevent them?

Here are four ideas to help you better understand why breakups happen and what you can do to prevent them in your relationship.

1. Fears surface of old times: It’s to be expected that being in an intimate relationship will inevitable bring up fears and challenges from the past.These might include fearing not being good enough, attractive enough, wealthy enough or even feelings of abandonment. If fears are not expected, looked at and healed, they interfere in some way or another with the health of every relationship. Take some time to notice when the fears surface, be loving with yourself but look inward instead of outward blaming your partner for what clearly is your issue.

Ask yourself if your fears are “true” or are you just making “stories” up in your head. If you are creating those “stories”and there’s no basis of truth to them, then change your thinking. It’s not always easy to do and it takes moment by moment monitoring of your thoughts. If you need help and support to make the changes you want in your life, be courageous enough to get it.

You may not have healed your broken heart from past relationships that ended and you find it very difficult to trust your current partner or open your heart completely to him or her. We suggest that you stop living from the hurt of those past relationships and bring yourself into the present moment, without continuing the “stories” of the past. Commit to starting over, allowing your fears to be there but reminding yourself that this is a new day.

2. Not feeling understood, valued, loved and appreciated: Everyone wants to feel understood, valued, loved and appreciated and when we’re not, we tend to either withdraw or attack the other person for not meeting our needs. If you want to be appreciated, start appreciating the other people in your life. Sounds simplistic but it really works! If you are not feeling loved, start being open to seeing and feeling love and appreciation that people are giving you that you may not be aware of in your daily life. It may be that someone allows you to go ahead of them in traffic or tells you to go ahead in a grocery line. Send some appreciation back to them and to everyone around you and watch love snowball in your life.

3. Not making their relationship a priority: Many couples take each other for granted and don’t give their relationship the attention it needs most of the time. The lack of closeness and connection can be overwhelming and can cause great loneliness.Make your relationship a priority in your life. Set aside time everyday to connect with your partner.

We believe that sex happens long before the bedroom. It starts all day long when you have thoughts about your partner—Are these thoughts positive or negative? It continues when you come together—Are you happy to see each other and express love and appreciation or do you great each other with a laundry list of chores, things to be done or grievances?These are just a couple of ways we make our relationship a priority. Try them in yours!

4. One or both people are made to feel they are wrong: One of the biggest mistakes people make is that they make each other wrong. As soon as critical words are said, defenses and walls go up and suddenly that person who you love and they love you becomes an “enemy.”

Before you jump into blaming and judging your partner, stop and take a moment to breathe.Ask yourself if making your partner wrong will drive you further apart or move you closer toward healing. Open your heart to understanding the dynamics of what’s going on between the two of you. Understand the full story before you start making someone wrong. So often we assume to know what is in someone’s heart and we really don’t. Take the time to find out!

5. Not healing your heart after a previous relationship breakup: Many people go from relationship to relationship without truly healing their hearts. They never discover what went wrong in their previous relationship and what they could have done differently. They keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again and always expect a different outcome.

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You don’t feel like smiling? Then what….
First, force yourself to smile. If you are alone, force yourself to whistle or hum a tune or sing. Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you happy.

Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not. – William James.

Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions. It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy..It is what you think about it.

“There is nothing either good or bad,” said Shakespeare, “but thinking makes it so.”

Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it. To someone who has seen a dozen people frown, scowl or turn their faces away, your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds.

Principle 2: Smile.
If you don’t do this, you are headed for trouble. The average person is more interested in his or her own name than all the other names on earth put together. Remember that name and call it easily, and you have paid a subtle and very effective compliment. But forget it or misspell it-and you have place yourself at a sharp disadvantage. Whenever you meet a new acquaintance, find out his or her complete name and some facts about his or her family, business or political opinions. Fix all these facts well in mind as part of the picture, and the next time you meet that person, even if it was a year later, you will be able to shake hands, inquire after the family, and ask about the hollyhocks in the backyard.

Sometimes it is difficult to remember a name, particularly if it is hard to pronounce. Rather than even try to learn it, many people ignore it or call the person by an easy nickname. Most people don’t remember names, for the simple reason that they don’t take the time and energy necessary to concentrate and repeat and fix names indelibly in their minds. If you don’t hear the name distinctly say excuse me I didn’t get your name clearly. Then, if it is an unusual name, ask how it is spelled. Use the person’s name several times in the conversation; try to associate it in your mind with the person’s features, expression and general appearance.

Then, when you are alone write the name down on a piece of paper, look at it, and concentrate on it, fix it securely in your mind, in this way you will gain an eye impression of the name as well as an ear impression.

Principle 3: Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

An easy way to become a good conversationalist. Listen intently; listen because you are genuinely interested. That kind of listening is one of the highest compliments we can pay anyone. The chronic kicker, even the most violent critic, will frequently soften and be subdued in the presence of a patient, sympathetic listener-a listener who will be silent with the irate fault-finger dilates like a king cobra and spews the poison out of his system. Be more eager to hear what a person has to say then even they are to tell it. Many people prefer good listeners to good talkers, but the ability to listen seems rarer than almost any other good trait. All we want when we are in trouble is a friendly, sympathetic listener to unburden yourself. That is frequently all the irritated customer wants, and the dissatisfied employee or the hurt friend. If you want to know how to make people shun you and laugh at you behind your back and even despise you, here is the recipe: Never listen to anyone for long.

Talk incessantly about yourself. If you have an idea while the other person is talking, don’t wait for him or her to finish: bust right in and interrupt in the middle of a sentence. If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.

Principle 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

How to interest people.

The royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most. Make an effort to find out what interests the person then get them talking about it. Talking in terms of the other person’s interests pays off for both parties. When asked what reward he got from it, Mr. Herzig responded that he not only received a different reward from each person but that in general the reward had been an enlargement of his life each time he spoke to someone.

Principle 5: Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.

How to make people like you instantly?

Ask yourself ” What is there about him or her that I can honestly admire?” That is sometimes a hard question to answer, especially with strangers. You want approval of those with whom you come in contact. You want recognition of your true worth. You want a feeling that your are important in our little world. You don’t want to listen to cheap, insincere flattery, but you do crave sincere appreciation. So let’s obey the Golden Rule, and give unto others what we would have others give unto us.

How?

When?

Where?

The answer is all the time, everywhere. Use little phrases such as

“I’m sorry to trouble you, ___.” “Would you please ___?” “Won’t you please?” “Would you mind?” “Thank you.”

The unvarnished truth is that almost all the people you meet feel themselves superior to you in some way, and a sure way to their hearts is to let them realize in some subtle way that you recognize their importance, and recognize it sincerely. Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours.

Principle 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.

In a Nutshell: Six ways to make people like you. Become genuinely interested in other people. Smile. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.

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